Thursday, June 7, 2012

Just A Different Way to Look at It...

Not sure if anyone is reading still, but this is kinda like a journal for me so I just had to share this.  A friend of mine, April, just posted this AMAZING post  on her blog.  It really opened up a new way of looking at things.  Some of you may remember a earlier post about me being accused of trying to publicly"out" my husband.  Well, April shares her story in this incredible post about sharing her story & not being able to stop sharing & what came of her sharing.  I was so grateful she shared her discovery with us.
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  1. ScabsJune 7, 2012 at 2:55 PM

    I'm so glad this spoke to you. it has been one of the greatest catalyst for change in my healing and surprisingly in Mr. Scabs too. Maybe I'll have him do a post on his feelings about telling people.

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    1. SJune 7, 2012 at 9:11 PM

      Can you share a little more about how it has been a catalyst for you, April? It would be awesome to here his feelings on telling people.

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    2. ScabsJune 8, 2012 at 1:03 AM

      I could totally share more! I'm so humbled that you would even ask! I'll be thinking more and adding a post just for you. :)

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  2. MacJune 7, 2012 at 3:31 PM

    I've never wanted to "out" my husband. Any time I've wanted to tell someone, it was because I needed support. But for them, they're ashamed and feel like they are being "outed." It's sad. I loved Scabs' post, too.

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    1. SJune 7, 2012 at 9:08 PM

      I never wanted to "out" mine, either. After being accused of trying to do so I did some soul searching about who I have told (he knows who I have told), but I did it out of sheer necessity due to explaining certain situations or because I needed the support. I told a few of his siblings with great reluctance, but did because they have dealt with this and felt they might be able to offer insight as how to deal with this. I can totally understand how they would feel like they are being "outed" and I so wish we could be more open about this because I still need more support and so does he, but I think that will have to wait for now.

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  3. AnonymousJune 7, 2012 at 4:59 PM

    we are so lucky to have other that have gone through things before us. to help us find our way.

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  4. HXJune 7, 2012 at 6:41 PM

    Involving more people in recovery has done wonders for my husband too -- the way he put it, the addiction thrives so much on secrecy, and on this idea that if anyone knew his deep, dark secret they could never love him -- so to have several people in our lives who know now, and love him unconditionally, has been huge for him. I still think we have to be very prayerful and careful when we choose who to tell, but we are very much done with living in a painful, lonely, horrible bubble.

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